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[summercomfort]

So I want to eliminate the feeling of obligation from my life. Obligations are those things that you feel like you *should* do, they're tasks that are attached with a sense of guilt if you don't do them. But you're not sure if you want to do them, so that leads to more guilt, or maybe even dread. And from there, procrastination and general not-good mental health.

And tumblr is framed in a way that really capitalizes on that. You should be more MOGAI inclusive. You should be watching these 3 shows. You should be playing Dragon Age: Inquisition. You should be reading these fanfics. And these things scroll by the dash too quickly for you to properly examine them -- so they all get tossed into this vague obligation pool as "things my internet friends are doing so maybe I should too."

But really that's not true.

The stuff in the obligation pile can really be sorted into:
- Things I want to do
- Things I don't want to do
- Things I have to do

And of course there's the time element, too. There are things that I want to do but don't have the time for. There's the things that I have to do but not immediately. Regardless, I think sorting through the obligation pile can force me to make an actionable decision about it, even if that decision is putting it back with an added time frame of "think about this later."

For example: right now I "should" do laundry, but it doesn't hit "have to do" level until probably mid-next week. So I'm going to deal with it after I get back from the company retreat.

I'm going to try doing a daily sort of my obligations into more helpful categories.