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summercomfort) wrote2004-10-28 12:45 pm
summercomfort) wrote2004-10-28 12:45 pm
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argh, this is getting into everything. Instead of writing my response paper, I'm trying to place myself in the mindset of my subletter.
1) I feel cheated because I thought I was coming to live in a clean apartment with reasonable roommates
2) I act defensively when roommates ask me to help clean, because I've been cleaning for the 2 weeks beforehand
3) I can't stand living in a dirty apartment with hair-clogged drains and tea-filled sinks and leftovers on the table. When I try to tell them, they don't listen to me, and so I express my anger and frustration and they retaliate
4) Even though I like the location and the rent, and I really hate to move again within a month, I cannot tolerate this environment any more, so I call the person I'm subletting from. She says that we will try to look for a subletter. I tell her that I will help with looking for a subletter, but if I don't find one first, I'm leaving because I can't stand this place. I will split the rent with her after I leave and before we find a subletter. After a new subletter comes in, I will get my security deposit back.
5) Now she says that she will not return the security deposit to me unless I find a subletter before I leave. And she says I have a high standard of cleanliness. I don't! It is they who are dirty dirty people. Well, then, since my name isn't on the lease, I have no power and thus no responsibility here. I've tried being nice and reasonable but they just all turn against me. I'm going to leave when I feel like it, I'm not going to help with finding a subletter, and I want my security deposit back!
And now from the mindset of my roommates:
1) Sushu has made the summer very bothersome because she had 3 different subletters moving in and out.
2) Granted, the house was very dirty when I got back, the new person just completely blew up in my face when I asked her to help with the cleaning. What right does she have to be so bossy and disagreeable?
3) We try to clean up and accommodate her sense of cleanliness, but she stands outside my door and yells at me every night for leaving a mess. I feel attacked in my own home and I'm afraid of being scolded about leaving a single hair in the bathroom. The home is somewhere I can relax, and I can't right now because she's not respecting that, and instead is yelling at me every time she says something wrong.
4) Well, then, I was going to treat you like a friend, but since you don't treat me like a friend, let's get down to business. You have no right to attack me like that. I need to go on the offensive. I will use whatever way I can to make sure you know that. Things that I would have let slide as a friend, I'm asking compensation for. You have made my life miserable, and you need to be held responsible for that, one way or another. Sushu needs to stand on our side and not give you your security deposit back
And now from me:
1) I am talking about myself in the third person first person.
2) I didn't even know cleanliness was going to become an issue. Who knew that they'd be at each other's throats like that? It didn't even come up when we were discussing subletting.
3) Sure, I made a mistake with the landlord. I called him several times to get the lease switched, but never got to him, so I kinda put it aside. My fault
4) It's bad enough that you call me up out of the middle of nowhere to tell me that you're moving out, but you don't feel guilty about it, and I had to talk you into helping me find a subletter. You were nice and agreed to, but I felt like I had to beg you to help. Sure, you say your name isn't on the lease, so you have no responsibility to the apartment, but we had a tacit agreement, so you have responsibility to me. And we agreed that it will be a full year sublet. And now you make it seem like helping me find a subletter is a favor? And you are unwilling to comply to the demands of my roommates for a quiet female long term subletter... You have to do people right, man.
5) I tried to stay neutral, but you weren't perfectly doing right by me, so I proposed what felt like a reasonable compromise. But you blew up in my face, called me several times and wrote me emails to call me names, refusing to help with finding the subletter, demanding your security deposit, telling me I have no right to demand any form of responsiblity from you, and essentially making me empathize with my roommates.
6) I do not want to make this a legal issue, but you seem to want it to be. Currently the only signed contract is the lease, which is in my name. Fine, I will bear responsibility for finding a subletter. When the new subletter comes, she will pay the landlord the security deposit, and I will get mine back. But what about the security deposit you paid to me? Is there any weight to the tacit agreement between you and me that you will stay the whole year, take over everything regarding? It is not a stated contract because I'm silly and not on the ball, but I am annoyed at you cleanly denying your responsibility like this, and I feel like there needs to be some penalty for that. Or at least acknowledgement.
7) I'm willing to give you back your security deposit if you made this a non-issue by finding a subletter and then leaving. See, if it were me who's moving out, I'd call and say "Hey, I can't stand this place, I'm sorry, but I've already found a long term subletter who your roommates agree to. Can I get my security deposit back?" instead of saying "Hey, I can't stand this place, I'm moving out" and just leaving me on the lurch like that.
8) I'm confused. Why can't everyone just apologize and take a step back? I've apologized. Your turn.
1) I feel cheated because I thought I was coming to live in a clean apartment with reasonable roommates
2) I act defensively when roommates ask me to help clean, because I've been cleaning for the 2 weeks beforehand
3) I can't stand living in a dirty apartment with hair-clogged drains and tea-filled sinks and leftovers on the table. When I try to tell them, they don't listen to me, and so I express my anger and frustration and they retaliate
4) Even though I like the location and the rent, and I really hate to move again within a month, I cannot tolerate this environment any more, so I call the person I'm subletting from. She says that we will try to look for a subletter. I tell her that I will help with looking for a subletter, but if I don't find one first, I'm leaving because I can't stand this place. I will split the rent with her after I leave and before we find a subletter. After a new subletter comes in, I will get my security deposit back.
5) Now she says that she will not return the security deposit to me unless I find a subletter before I leave. And she says I have a high standard of cleanliness. I don't! It is they who are dirty dirty people. Well, then, since my name isn't on the lease, I have no power and thus no responsibility here. I've tried being nice and reasonable but they just all turn against me. I'm going to leave when I feel like it, I'm not going to help with finding a subletter, and I want my security deposit back!
And now from the mindset of my roommates:
1) Sushu has made the summer very bothersome because she had 3 different subletters moving in and out.
2) Granted, the house was very dirty when I got back, the new person just completely blew up in my face when I asked her to help with the cleaning. What right does she have to be so bossy and disagreeable?
3) We try to clean up and accommodate her sense of cleanliness, but she stands outside my door and yells at me every night for leaving a mess. I feel attacked in my own home and I'm afraid of being scolded about leaving a single hair in the bathroom. The home is somewhere I can relax, and I can't right now because she's not respecting that, and instead is yelling at me every time she says something wrong.
4) Well, then, I was going to treat you like a friend, but since you don't treat me like a friend, let's get down to business. You have no right to attack me like that. I need to go on the offensive. I will use whatever way I can to make sure you know that. Things that I would have let slide as a friend, I'm asking compensation for. You have made my life miserable, and you need to be held responsible for that, one way or another. Sushu needs to stand on our side and not give you your security deposit back
And now from me:
1) I am talking about myself in the third person first person.
2) I didn't even know cleanliness was going to become an issue. Who knew that they'd be at each other's throats like that? It didn't even come up when we were discussing subletting.
3) Sure, I made a mistake with the landlord. I called him several times to get the lease switched, but never got to him, so I kinda put it aside. My fault
4) It's bad enough that you call me up out of the middle of nowhere to tell me that you're moving out, but you don't feel guilty about it, and I had to talk you into helping me find a subletter. You were nice and agreed to, but I felt like I had to beg you to help. Sure, you say your name isn't on the lease, so you have no responsibility to the apartment, but we had a tacit agreement, so you have responsibility to me. And we agreed that it will be a full year sublet. And now you make it seem like helping me find a subletter is a favor? And you are unwilling to comply to the demands of my roommates for a quiet female long term subletter... You have to do people right, man.
5) I tried to stay neutral, but you weren't perfectly doing right by me, so I proposed what felt like a reasonable compromise. But you blew up in my face, called me several times and wrote me emails to call me names, refusing to help with finding the subletter, demanding your security deposit, telling me I have no right to demand any form of responsiblity from you, and essentially making me empathize with my roommates.
6) I do not want to make this a legal issue, but you seem to want it to be. Currently the only signed contract is the lease, which is in my name. Fine, I will bear responsibility for finding a subletter. When the new subletter comes, she will pay the landlord the security deposit, and I will get mine back. But what about the security deposit you paid to me? Is there any weight to the tacit agreement between you and me that you will stay the whole year, take over everything regarding? It is not a stated contract because I'm silly and not on the ball, but I am annoyed at you cleanly denying your responsibility like this, and I feel like there needs to be some penalty for that. Or at least acknowledgement.
7) I'm willing to give you back your security deposit if you made this a non-issue by finding a subletter and then leaving. See, if it were me who's moving out, I'd call and say "Hey, I can't stand this place, I'm sorry, but I've already found a long term subletter who your roommates agree to. Can I get my security deposit back?" instead of saying "Hey, I can't stand this place, I'm moving out" and just leaving me on the lurch like that.
8) I'm confused. Why can't everyone just apologize and take a step back? I've apologized. Your turn.