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summercomfort) wrote2014-03-10 10:50 pm
summercomfort) wrote2014-03-10 10:50 pm
Combating parental perceptions of spouse
I think it's only natural for one's parents to have a rather skewed view of one's spouse. After all, parents will always put my well-being before my spouse. They've known me for 30 years, and my spouse for only 5. The only information they have about my spouse is through limited observations and their interpretations of what I say. I'm generally very honest with my parents, but it's also a general truth that when making small talk, it's easier to talk about minor frustrations versus the bigger things that are already working and awesome.
So let me take a moment to talk about all the ways that my husband has made my life better.
I love how responsible he is, in the smallest of ways. There are lots of times when I'm tired and I don't feel like making food or doing household chores. But I can always count on Jono to step in and do it, even if he's also really tired. It's important to sweat the small stuff!
If it weren't for him, China Comics wouldn't exist. Regular Tisquantum updates wouldn't exist. I often spend a lot of time wanting to do something without taking the plunge and actually doing it. Jono inspires me to actually do these things that seem big and scary, like start and comic and maintain regular updates -- because he does it, and that makes me want to try hard at my dreams, too.
Jono makes me calm and happy. When we first got married, it was kind of a giddy happiness. Then it took a few years for us to work out some of the kinks of spending our evenings together -- we've learned that we need to be much more explicit about logistics, that we have different planning windows, that some activities don't mesh, and that we clearly state when we're "wait-cycling" for each other. But now that these systems are in place, it's a very serene happiness -- things just work better when he's around.
Jono understands all of me, which is quite a feat.
I love that Jono is always learning, always exploring, and always examining his life. He inspires me to do that, too. Sure, sometimes that leads to angst and frustration, but without him it's too easy to settle into an unquestioned existence.
So let me take a moment to talk about all the ways that my husband has made my life better.
I love how responsible he is, in the smallest of ways. There are lots of times when I'm tired and I don't feel like making food or doing household chores. But I can always count on Jono to step in and do it, even if he's also really tired. It's important to sweat the small stuff!
If it weren't for him, China Comics wouldn't exist. Regular Tisquantum updates wouldn't exist. I often spend a lot of time wanting to do something without taking the plunge and actually doing it. Jono inspires me to actually do these things that seem big and scary, like start and comic and maintain regular updates -- because he does it, and that makes me want to try hard at my dreams, too.
Jono makes me calm and happy. When we first got married, it was kind of a giddy happiness. Then it took a few years for us to work out some of the kinks of spending our evenings together -- we've learned that we need to be much more explicit about logistics, that we have different planning windows, that some activities don't mesh, and that we clearly state when we're "wait-cycling" for each other. But now that these systems are in place, it's a very serene happiness -- things just work better when he's around.
Jono understands all of me, which is quite a feat.
I love that Jono is always learning, always exploring, and always examining his life. He inspires me to do that, too. Sure, sometimes that leads to angst and frustration, but without him it's too easy to settle into an unquestioned existence.
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